More Than A Ride Home

The other day I took a poll about Friendship!

Thank you all for taking the time to complete it.

Before you skip down to the results, I want to tell you what prompted me to administer the poll.

A couple of months ago, I let a friendship go because it brought me down. I would listen to her vent, and I didn’t mind because I cared about her. But when it came to me. My words went in one ear and out the other. I let it go for years because we had history, but I finally drew the line because I expressed a painful situation that I was going through. And when the point of discussion resurfaced, she acted shocked about what I was going through.

I told her we talked about this, and she said, “I don’t remember.”

Well, then I don’t remember why we are friends.

That pissed me off! But I let it go. Well, not entirely. I partially buried it.

After my surgery, I didn’t receive a call of concern, not a flower, not anything! And my house was flooded with gifts and love from the few people that knew about my surgery. At this point, I knew what I meant to her, and it wasn’t the same as what she meant to me.

After a couple of months of us not communicating, I began to take a closer look at our friendship, and I discovered I was her ride home—from work, someone to pass the time.

I’m better than, and I deserve to be treated better than that. I would rather have one close friend than to have several that are not real.

Letting that friend go gave me the strength that I needed to no longer give up my time listening, comforting the very same person that can’t remember about me speaking of a significant surgery that I was scared to death to undergo.

DON’T WASTE your time giving your attention to someone that views you as a ride home.

It’s easy for me to meet people because I love to talk and engage, but I choose to keep (excluding my kids, of course) 5 people close to me.

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

21 Replies to “More Than A Ride Home”

  1. I must admit, I’m not altogether at remembering birthdays, besides the ones that are immediatr, but i always try anf make up for it in some way or another.

    The 3-5 seems to resonate and good middle road.
    Fascinating results, amazing that the majority find it hard to make friends.

    1. I’m horrible at birthdays!!! That’s the only good thing about FB.

      I wonder if it’s because we are older and don’t want to bother with the “get to know each other phase”

      1. In my family there are endearing memory boxes who can remember every detail of every date to celebrate. So I rely on them and they back me up without fail.
        Age and maybe the quiet intimacy of clinching glasses.
        Age time and space maybe for the getting to know phase. I can’t put my finger on it But if you tickle my fancy I’m going to linger, participate in what grows. Feel the joy in the company.

  2. Excellent post, as always, Belladonna. This here, “It’s easy for me to meet people because I love to talk and engage, but I choose to keep (excluding my kids, of course) 5 people close to me.” That is powerful, and so true. I am the same, easy to meet people, always has been, yet also only keep a minimal amount of people close to me. Have a lovely rest of your week! ❤️

    1. Thank you Jeff!!!! Life is so much better when are surrounded by good hearted and like minded people. Very few people that is 😁
      Have a great week Jeff!

  3. Your struggle with this ex-friend strongly resonated with me Belladonna. I’ve been there and made a similar decision, it was painful and necessary! Good for you, you deserved so much more! Great post, warmly, C

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