The other day I took a poll about Friendship!
Thank you all for taking the time to complete it.
Before you skip down to the results, I want to tell you what prompted me to administer the poll.
A couple of months ago, I let a friendship go because it brought me down. I would listen to her vent, and I didn’t mind because I cared about her. But when it came to me. My words went in one ear and out the other. I let it go for years because we had history, but I finally drew the line because I expressed a painful situation that I was going through. And when the point of discussion resurfaced, she acted shocked about what I was going through.
I told her we talked about this, and she said, “I don’t remember.”
Well, then I don’t remember why we are friends.
That pissed me off! But I let it go. Well, not entirely. I partially buried it.
After my surgery, I didn’t receive a call of concern, not a flower, not anything! And my house was flooded with gifts and love from the few people that knew about my surgery. At this point, I knew what I meant to her, and it wasn’t the same as what she meant to me.
After a couple of months of us not communicating, I began to take a closer look at our friendship, and I discovered I was her ride home—from work, someone to pass the time.
I’m better than, and I deserve to be treated better than that. I would rather have one close friend than to have several that are not real.
Letting that friend go gave me the strength that I needed to no longer give up my time listening, comforting the very same person that can’t remember about me speaking of a significant surgery that I was scared to death to undergo.
DON’T WASTE your time giving your attention to someone that views you as a ride home.
It’s easy for me to meet people because I love to talk and engage, but I choose to keep (excluding my kids, of course) 5 people close to me.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!