Best Advice

What is the best advice you ever received ?

Today I was reading a blog, and he made me think about something that changed my perspective on people, life, and the decisions I make. But mainly the decisions that I make. Now, I’m not claiming that I make the best decisions; however, things usually work out for the best when I listen to myself.

Over the years, I’ve learned to back away from going to people that I thought had sound advice. I viewed them as all-knowing, and they were everything except that. To my surprise, those same people took pleasure in getting a crew to rally against me. They turned their back on me and left me out to dry. Since then, I have forgiven the ring leader, but I haven’t nor will I ever forget. I’ve since then found comfort in not needing that person at all.

I see her for who she is, and distance is kept!

Let me get back to my point. 

In my younger years, I let folks sway my decision-making with their opinions. I was young, dumb, and listen to people close to me because I thought age meant wisdom. BIG misconception! Experience and common sense equal wisdom. Blood or a superiority complex means nothing when you don’t know the driving force behind their advice. After all, not all advice is good advice.

Anyway, I had the pleasure of working with a 75-year-old man. He and his wife could tell that my heart was heavy even though I try like hell to hide whatever I’m going through. I guess on this day; I failed at doing so. 

They asked me to have a sit and talk. I felt very comfortable in doing so because I had worked with them for quite some time. With ease, I told them what I was going through and how I stupidly and openly listen to what others have to say, and after a prolonged heartfelt conversation, he said, let me end with this:

“Opinions are like assholes; everyone has one.”

That change my life.

Listen to your heart and let that guide you!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

27 Replies to “Best Advice”

      1. You know now that you say that I have heard comedians say things about Nigerian prince needing “whomever” to send money. I’ve never received one of those letters but I guess several people have

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      2. those who say don’t know, and those who don’t say, but I amthe exception to that rule; because I know and I yold you. I say many from every country con and scam, but the Nigerians are the best!

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  1. I made a mistake of opening up to someone recently. This person isn’t a bad person by any means but her opinions were very full of judgments and comparisons of me to other people, as well as her own projections. Much of what she had to say didn’t sit right with me… especially the sizing me up and judging shit. Not what I needed or asked for. I just wanted a sympathetic ear. Now… I keep my deepest shit to myself and am learning to be emotionally independent. I am not interested in anyone’s damn opinion anymore lol Great read. I hope you are feeling better about things now ❤

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    1. I know exactly how you feel. That story is very similar to mine. And I tell ya now that I’m more guarded I’m so much happier. Being able to depend on my own instincts is what was needed. Some folks just talk to much and you want to say shut the hell up and listen! Thank you for sharing!

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  2. Great advice, my husband uses that one about opinions all the time!
    Hey, can I make a friendly suggestion? The black print on the blue background is a little hard for me to read. I wonder if light green or something would make the print show up better? Just a thought, I had to change mine for the same reason. Now the friend says she can read it much better!
    The best advice I ever got was from my dad when I was nervous about going into the Army and coming out changed in a way I didn’t want to be. He said, “Just be yourself.” I am still the woman I was when I went in. 🙂

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    1. My fellow army lady!!!!! Awesome😍
      Okay I’ll look at the color change now. Thank you for pointing that out🙏🏽

      Your husband is wise and so is your dad. Army women came show ya a thing or two 👊🏽💪🏽

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  3. I remember coming to similar conclusions over the years because I too had the tendency to trust age and others over myself. The best advice I ever received was – “Do what you want” It sounds simple but it is huge for my tendency to conform.

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  4. Nice, it’s good to have some old folk in your friendship camp.
    Although I’m not suggesting that some old folk don’t have malicious intent, but most times they have come to the juncture of scars, wounds, sorrow, fragility, vulnerability, can see clearly now, the rain is gone and wouldn’t chance these, the slippery slope on anyone’s life, or nobody’s either, but rather clear a path for those in the spring of their lives….most times

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