5 Things You Never Say To Someone With Cancer

Call me silly, but I often google things that will help improve my etiquette.

So I figured since the things that I’m finding are helping me, then maybe, just maybe, it can help someone else.

I get tongued tied when someone tells me life-shattering news. I don’t want to say the wrong things, and I don’t want to remain silent either. But most of all, I don’t want to offend anyone. So I sit and strain my brain to come up with something that will show I care. And while I’m doing that, I literally cringe at what I’m hearing everyone else say.

Now it’s a totally different ball game if you are sharing horrifying information with me in person rather than the phone. If I can see you, then I will grab you and hug you. For me a hug is worth so much more than words. There is just something about that human contact that makes you feel so protected. And I wish I could share a hug with the two ladies that are currently battling breast cancer. But since I can’t, I want to make sure that I’m saying the right things and just being silent when needed.

Some of the things that I found on my google search seemed like common sense. However, common sense isn’t very common (pointing at myself), so I will share this valuable information and hope that it helps you as much as it helped me.

5 Things You Never Say To Someone With Cancer

  1. You will be fine… I can feel it
  2. Cheer up
  3. I heard about a new treatment
  4. You’re so strong
  5. Please let me know if there is anything I can do

To Stupid To Make The List

  1. It’s a good thing you already had kids
  2. Everything happens for a reason
  3. Sugar feeds cancer

Please share one or two things or even a list that may come to your mind.

I will continue with this topic tomorrow, so please stay tuned!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

25 Replies to “5 Things You Never Say To Someone With Cancer”

      1. You are very welcome 😉 Ha, yes, it certainly does. Sometimes, I think it is meant sincerely but it is one of those trite phrases whose undertones definitely say “Pull yourself together and move on” 😦

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  1. Great post, Bella. I’m the same way when I hear of someone having cancer or someone passing away. I’m so afraid of saying the wrong thing but I’m also scared of staying too quiet. So, like you, I rely on physical touch and I’ve found that taking the person’s hand and holding it always helps, or a hug, holding them. Something to let them know that I care and I’m there for them. Thank you so much for the reminders. Sending lots of love your way! ❤

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  2. I think it’s important to try your best to be kind and it’s so lovely of you to Google things like that will help you be more polite/appropriate. I think one thing people probably don’t want to hear is fake positivity. I think it’s important to feel the negative emotions as well instead of repressing them.

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