You can go into an ice cream shop and build your own heavenly sundae. You can go to a car lot and build your ideal car.
You can go to a vacant piece of land and build the house of your dreams. But there are some things you just can’t build. One of which is MAN. So stop trying.
I have several single friends in my life, and I once, a very long time ago, was single. I vaguely remember those days. It seems as though I’ve been cleaning up behind my husband and making dinners for a hundred years. Side NOTE: I choose to cook and clean because, well… I’m kinda good at it, and I have a slight cleaning problem that no one can live up to.
I often ask my 19-year-old and my single friends what type of man they are looking for. The answers I get literally make me LAUGH OUT LOUD. And I’m like, well, if you find that man, please send me one too.
The Total Package
Building a man that is six foot and over, bank account stacked to the ceiling, muscles on top of muscles, cooperate job or own business, likes to travel abroad, no children, surprises you with presents, attentive, knows how to clean, cook, not afraid of anything. I could go on with the build a package, but I think you get my unrealistic point.
Perfect For ME
I have dreadful news!
When the “perfect” (and I use that term loosely) man comes along, he won’t be a quarter of those things but guess what, you aren’t either. You may think you are the cream of the crop, but you aren’t.
NOONE is the perfect person. There are things that you need your significant other to possess because you lack and vice versa. The two of you will complement each other and grow into your ideal person. That is if the love is true.
You’ll know when you stumble across the right person. He might only have a dollar to his name, unorganized, can’t cook to save his life, a little out of shape, and fearful of many things. But has every want and desire to change. And with the right person, he will.
He may not be perfect, but he will be PERFECT for you!
I love this song, and so hits my soul. Missy Elliot nailed it with her lyrics
Nobody’s perfect, baby, but you’re perfect for me….. AHHHHHHHH
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~
I’ve never understood that mentality. You miss out on meeting and dating so many very cool and beautiful people if you don’t seek perfection.
I’m not looking now, but I never went out with a checklist of traits required. But I’ve had friends who did. They were insufferable as singles. They’re tick off a list why a lovely specimen of humanity didn’t meet their expectations without even finding out their name!
But, I’ve always known I have weird standards compared to most people.
I can’t understand it either. Half the time we don’t know what’s good for us anyway. Hen when we stack unrealistic expectations on top of each other we become hopeless.
I bet you don’t have weird standards.
More like a list of: “No way, you is cray-cray”.
Things I won’t put up with more than things I demand/expect.
Sounds reasonable to me!!
Well said and expressively so. I am single and I get the end of the spectrum too good to be true! However, I agree, there is no perfect and someone that is seeking perfect is not perfect. And if someone finds the perfect, they will complaint about you…lol… cause he/she is perfect and we are not. I don’t want a perfect woman, I want a woman that is confident in the skin their in and accept who they are want demanding I change. great post
Thank you!
Exactly! We can’t enter a relationship and say he/she could be better if I change this or that. We don’t have the power to change anyone but with love and growth we can be better for eachother.
Thank you for stopping by!
surely you are welcome!
So very perfectly said!! Expectations and images of perfect partners ruin the perfect imperfect process of building a life together. As along as values of trust and integrity can be aligned, most other things need ongoing work by both parties in more or less degrees.
Yes that’s right. We need to work on bettering ourselves together. 💗
bubble…burst :'(
Guess it’s good that I gave up on dating altogether.
If I can’t have my cake and eat it too, I’ll just run on celery >:(
Right when yu stop looking your Mr. will show up!
Ha! Yes no one is perfect – I think men do a similar thing as well with women and it’s funny why we do this. Our expectations are so high we can only be disappointed.
Hope you’re well – have a good Christmas 🙂
Right! Just ridiculous. And yet they don’t see any of the flaws.
You have a great christmas too friend!
I’ve known many people who’ve missed out big by setting this criteria. And sadly, for a while when I was young, I was like that too. I had this imaginary list of what a man should be. Thank goodness I grew up and got out of that mentality and now I have a husband that “isn’t perfect, but perfect for me!” He’s not rich but he works hard and he treats me like I’m special. For the first two and a half years, we butted heads a lot because we did things differently. But we’ve begun to get used to each others’ ways and appreciate it. Thank you for this great post. It really makes you think.
Thank you for sharing! My husband and I have butted heads a lot and now we can laugh about it. Marriage is not easy and even after 20 years I still give him the side eye and I know I get it to from him. We aren’t perfect but we make it work 🙃
You’re welcome. And yessss! That’s what it’s all about!
Yes 😍