4 Steps To Find Your Support System

Do you have one?

~OR~

Do you have people that are taking your support and then shuffling out the door?

~OR~

Are you too proud to ask for support?

During different parts of my life, I was without a support system, and then other times, I had one but was too afraid to show my vulnerable side. I thought I would look weak, letting people know that I was screaming and dying inside. So I suffered in silence.

When I ended my silence I asked other women if they have the support they need. Women have a whole different struggle than men, and we have a tendency to try to hold down everything that involves our family, leaving our own needs to suffer.

Here’s my take on the support system

We NEED one! If you’re married, then you really understand what I’m saying. Your spouse can be the most amazing person on earth, but they may not be the best person for you to vent and cry to. Your spouse turns into more of a protector and looks to solve your problems instead of giving you your moment to just release. A good support system will understand what you are going through and give you words of wisdom to get through.

NOT advice but words of wisdom. There’s a big damn difference between the two. If I don’t ask for your advice, please don’t give it and I will do the same. However, I will take a bible scripture or a good pep talk on what you did to get through your rough patch.

Now let’s Find These Women.

Step 1 ~ Identify all the things you have going on in your life.

Find women that are where you are in life. Moms have a lot of things in common. We are trying to work, take care of ourselves, and we are the glue that holds the family together. (I’ll get into this topic tomorrow)

Step 2 ~ GET online

Starting a blog is an excellent way to meet other writers from all around the world. Instagram is filled with much more than just sex-craved weirdos. You can actually meet a decent amount of people that share similar interests as you. Believe it or not, I have found lifelong friends on Youtube. We all shared the desire to save money and met in the couponing community. We all met in 2010 and remained friends and one hell of support for one another.

Step 3 ~ Reach out to an online Coach or ME.

I can’t tell you how often I sit and listen to my client’s vent, and I freakin enjoy that. I’m a great listener, and I feel like you should be if your any type of coach.

Step 4~ Contact and cling on to your favorite family member.

The best friend and support system you can possibly have might be someone that has always loved you for you. There has to be at least one person in your family… right?

Finding your support system may be difficult, but so worth putting forth the effort to find them! YOU’RE MENATL HEALTH DEPENDS ON IT!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~