Have you ever sat down and thought about all the things you do wrong? Not critiquing others and pointing out all their wrongdoings. But instead, choosing to put your attention on you!
We can’t fix others, but we can fix ourselves.
A year ago, I started therapy. I wanted to heal all of my open wombs and work on becoming a better me. Not just for me but for everyone that I love. You see, I do this funny thing. Well, maybe funny isn’t the right word, more like a thing that was in desperate need of change.
I use to have a habit of cutting off communication with people. Not because I don’t like them but more so because my feelings may be hurt about something. And instead of talking it through, I’ll just pretend like you don’t exist.
But wait, here’s the interesting part. I didn’t think that I needed therapy about this. But after hours and hours of talking, I discovered that cutting off communication was the root of all my problems. As well as overthinking situations and making them a bigger deal than what they really were.
The Big Discovery
I NEED TO continue to CHANGE! There I said it… I need to continue to fix me and get out of my head!
I’ve realized that I’m doing more harm than good by ending communication. If I really love you, why in the world would I stop talking to you. Instead, we can talk through our problems then choose to either solve it and move on together peacefully or decide to have closure and end on friendly terms.
Anyways during my sessions, I was forced to admit that I love to love. I will bend over backward to help anyone. My listening skills are top-notch, and I will allow you to vent, vent, and vent some more. But with the help of therapy, I’ve learned to speak up to you and not to anyone else when I feel that our friendship/relationship is one-sided.
So, in conclusion, today and tomorrow will be good days. My need and want for change are working on the same level these days, and I could not be more enthusiastic about it.
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~
I relate to this and I think it’s a protection mechanism to prevent yourself from getting hurt. It’s a deep rooted belief based on previous hurtful experiences. It takes time and a lot of courage to face these monsters and in this post you have taken that first step. You are doing it my dear friend. Give yourself credit for your bravery and willingness to continue working on yourself. You got this ❤️😘
You are absolutely right. Defense mechanism from past hurt and pain. This is this the first time in my life that I’m actively doing something about it. I feel so free right now.
Thank you y dear friend. You are one beautiful human.
I am so so proud of you taking an active approach vs sitting on the sidelines. It takes courage and you u should be proud because you are doing something about your truth and reality. I am in your corner, one of your biggest fans and I am cheering for you from the top of my lungs.
Thank you for your sweet, kind words gorgeous human yourself. Hugs.
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I appreciate you and I hear you screaming girlie 😍😍
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WOW!! Thank you for making my day. Welcome to Belladonna and I look forward to you reading and commenting in the future.
Growth is deeply, amazingly, and so beautifully important! Love how you reached that healing conclusion. 🙂
Thank you so much Jaya! 💖💖💖💖