I will hang on to a trash friendship and try to breathe life into it.
Even when I don’t hear a heartbeat, I’ll still sit there with hope in my heart. That was until recently, I’ve learned to let go and not look back. Once I reached 40 I grew an extremeely high appreciation for life. And stop caring who liked me and who didn’t. I’ll match your energy and give you whatever you give me.
Nothing more and nothing less!
Let me give you a back story about me. I’m a cancer, and I think we are naturally caring and nurturing people. We will find the good in a roach and hope that they will get their shit together and stop sneaking into people’s homes. Cancers will love you and be one of the few that you can depend on. That is until you give us a reason not to. It takes a lot, but when we are there, BAEBAE make no mistakes about it.
WE ARE DONE!
We can smell a snake and will treat you just like that. But since we are only human, sometimes we will make a mistake and let one slither in. Like I mentioned previously, we naturally care about people, and the wrong folks will sneak in with a sad “woe is me” story, and we will listen and want to help you in any way we can. Which, in return, will suck the freakin life out of us. And right about this time, I just want to punch you in the face. Because I know this friendship is a one-way street.
I know damn well if I come to that person with a problem, they will not listen. In fact, the conversation will go right back to them.
I’m too old for the fuckery, so don’t test me with that!
Then there lives the ones that come with a sweet smile and fully attentive. Well, until they aren’t. They keep you guessing from day to day if your friendship is on or OFF. Some days are good, like really really good, and then bam, communication is cut. Then there I am texting or calling to see “how ya doing”? And/or “what ya doing.” For a while, the conversation is smooth, and the friendship is back on.
Then, POOF, we’re off again, and I didn’t even see it coming. Well, actually, I did because it happens all the damn time. Still, I sit there, replaying our recent events in my head, and trying to determine what went wrong.
Then the other day, my niece posted something on Instagram that really caught my eye. The post stated:
“Stop calling and checking on your “friend” and see if they call and check on you.” Well, maybe that’s not the exact wording, but you get my point. So I did just that, and I haven’t heard a peep out of her—a 10-year “friendship” out the door.
So there you have it. That’s when you know it’s time to let go of the friend you thought you had. It’s time to end things if you’re the only one putting forth effort.
Embrace what you really have and what you always had. You had someone you could laugh with, and that’s it. Stop trying to make it more than that.
That’s what I’m telling myself.
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27 Replies to “When To Let Go Of A Friend”
Last year, I let go of two people who I thought were friends. Some people, I’ve learned, only care about the people within their confined circle.
So true! I say easy come easy go. Clear space for true friendship that will bring you a lifetime of laughs.
I hope you weren’t down or sad too much after letting them go.
For me politics is straining friendships. Also friendships are sometimes seasonal and always fluid.
I agree on all three accounts! I see all I needed to see from certain people during this election time and also over the past 4 years. I am all for seasonal friendships!
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Bam! You go girl! You’re like me and have no time for people who bring drama! Tell them to run along! 😀
Life is truly to short for mess
Friends means no hesitation no burden. So if you feel suffocated as well as them also, then let it go..
What an interesting topic to pick up. It’s obviously easier said than done, and to realise that you are in a toxic friendship when you are in one is itself difficult because it becomes so hard to see clearly through your feelings
Isn’t that the truth!!! YOu get so use to the disfunction until someone on the outside points it out to you.
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Absolut right. It was a good read, thanks!
Thank you so much!!!!
I just left Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok because of this exact issue. I say my one real toxic trait is positivity when there’s obviously none to be had. I am goofy and will hold onto hope for way longer than anyone ever needed to. These are all ten years rl friends from college. And I have just walked away from them all. One actually had the nerve to message me on Etsy. And I’m ashamed to admit that I was STILL nice about everything. Haha! Congratulations to you for such strength and wisdom!
I think that’s ht hrd part, knowing when to let go of a friendhip. But when you do, the damn freedom you feel is real! She messaged you on Esty???!!! LOLOL She was desperate to connect.
That’s good that you were nice… KIillem with kindness. Works every time!
I found it interesting that she messaged me on there to “ask me for my address” because I had donated money to a fundraiser she had going. I’ve ordered from her three times on Etsy. 😂 She has my address.
LOL! Oh no!!!!!
No worries. She was supposedly doing the fundraiser to get a printer for her shop. Turns out (I didn’t read the actual fundraiser because I read her Facebook post) she never mentioned the printer and basically just said she didn’t want to work anymore. And she needs a car? Lololol! I shared it and another friend messaged me and was like, did you even read this? Level of petty: she took three days to even say thank you. My thing was, I am always supportive of everyone. Who’s got my back? And sweet summer child. No one WANTS to work. Haha! We just have to survive somehow. 😂😂😂🥴
What??????? Well who the hell wants to work. Some people are so odd. I’m so sick of seeing go fund me links in tiktok. They are always for someone’s rent or car note. Just to lazy to work. And zero medical conditions
Oh my goodness! EXACTLY!
Also. Yikes. I didn’t look at the date you posted this until after I commented. 😬 My apologies for dredging up the past.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 who spent like dredging up the past! I love it! That’s what we as women do. 😂
Haha! That’s fair. And sooooo true.
People are wild.
Girl they really are!