How To Lose Male Followers

All of you who read my posts know that I’m a mom of 3 and happily married. My life revolves around all 4 of them…well 5 including my dog, Larry.

No matter what I do, I put them first and have for over 18 years. My work schedule is centered off my of my crazy bunch. When people see me, I usually have one if not all, of them with me.

Which leads me to this topic!

I needed to create something that was just for me. I wanted a world that only I existed in. So I started an Instagram account, Belladonna’s Flashlight.

Please follow me there my insta stories are pretty funny, full of exercise tips, food and much more.


I post very often, and they are typically of yours truly. This is my space, and I don’t want to share pics of my kids and husband with absolute strangers. I save all of that for Facebook.

Anyway, my following on Instagram had increased very quickly, and my engagement is pretty good. Besides the occasional DMs from men that want to spoil me with a whopping $400 a week. Yes, they actually use the word SPOIL and then follow it with a cheap amount. I don’t know what women they are use to. I want to respond back and say, “honey who the hell do you think your spoiling with those simple coins”? Instead, I just delete and keep it moving.

Well, the other day, it was my 20th anniversary and posted a pic of my husband and I together. We were laughing and gazing into the eyes of each other. Then the next day, 30 men stopped gazing into mine.

They kicked me to the curb 200w-14

and the funny thing is I told my husband this was going to happen. So if you want to lose followers, put a pic of you and your boo thing up!

You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!


Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog. If you enjoyed this read, then I guarantee you will love my YouTube channel, and while you’re there, please SUBSCRIBE and come back often for new content!

Belladonna’s Flashlight Instagram



8 Replies to “How To Lose Male Followers”

    1. Please join me in laughter. My husband said I’m sorry for lowering your followers and I said no those aren’t the people I want. That’s why I love blogging. Such a feel good place 💗

      1. Haha, yes, exactly 🙂 Although it’s kinda weird that folks follow because they think you are “available”. I mean what the heck is that about?? To borrow a quote from The Doors .. People are strange 🙂

      2. Well I just found out that people use Instagram as a free dating site 🤦🏽‍♀️ yes people are very strange! Lol

  1. I love this post. LOL. You’re so right. It takes a bit of evolution to respect people for who they are. Some of us learn from their parents while others wait for many years. Happy twentieth anniversary. May all of you have the very best of years filled with enrichment, abundance and love. We’ve had our 28th . I don’t know how the years passed so soon. Lots of love to your dog as well. I enjoyed reading your post😊

    1. Oh wow!!! Happy 28th. Yes the years pass by so quickly.
      I laughed while writing this post because people on Instagram are so fickle and can become triggered so easily. Thank you so much for stopping by. 💗💗💗

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