The Roommate

So today, my daughter found a girl with similar likes, and they decided that they should be roommates. This fall, she will be starting college, and I’m beyond proud.

Let me brag for a minute!

She is beyond excited that she was accepted into her school of choice and in their honors college. Where she will be majoring in Chemical Engineering. So far, she has her steps all figured out. I only wish I had been half as with it as she is. I had no clue what I wanted to do after high school, and I was broke. Which meant off to the military I went. I loved every minute of it but would not recommend it for my kids at this point.

I digress. As I was going for my run today, my daughter sent me a text. I could tell by her emojis that she was excited. So I stopped running so I could see what all the hype was about.

There it was in black and white……… I have a roommate for school

Well, I thought we shall see about that. I needed to know who this young lady is and see if a picture could tell me all I need to know about her.

One thing I saw was she likes snacks. There were a few pics on her Instagram of her eating Doritos. A few pics with her tongue hanging out. Oh, let me tell you just how much I hate when people stick their tongue out on pictures. I just think it’s weird!

Needless to say, I’m not 100% sold on this young lady. My daughter said it would be awkward to back out now since they have exchanged Instagram information.

UGH… do I let her handle this? Is it time for me to stop looking so closely over her shoulder?

This is tough!

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mines and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

 

14 thoughts on “The Roommate

  1. Stop. These are your daughters choices. If she’s old enough to go to college she’s old enough to figure this out. We learn by doing not by being told. I say this to you as a mom. The best thing you can do is let’s kids figure things out. Be support of she comes to you to talk but do not interfere. She’s going to college to learn more than just engineering.

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      1. If your guard stays up she will never learn how to guard herself. The best way to protect her is to let her learn how to protect herself. She will be alone. She has to know how to make a good decision from bad. I tell you this with love and a daughter who is now a rising sophomore

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      2. My baby 😫😫😫 But you are right and I am such a control freak and she has proven to make great decisions. So I am going to back off. I’m getting better every day. I’ll be coming to you for support!!

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      3. Hey…I’m a control freak of the first order, but the kids I see who screw up the worst (cause let’s face it we all screw up) are the ones who have hovering parents. Plus resilience!!

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      4. I’m more protective when it comes to people doing her wrong not necessarily her messing up. We’ve had some petty girl
        things happen to her in the past. So because of that I will always watch over her.

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      5. We always watch over our kids. But…we need to make sure they’re aware of situations and how to deal with them. Parenting sucks and this is the hardest thing if all…knowing that there are people in the world that don’t love them like they deserve. Hang in there and come talk to me when it gets tough. I get it. But you’re a great mom who raised a great kid.

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  2. Just tell her the potential dangers to watch out for and then let her go. She is older now. She has to make her own choices and be proud of them. She will only regret you not telling her stuff she could have known earlier. Otherwise I think she will be fine. Keep your window open for her to confide in you and complain if anything goes wrong. Lest she suffer in silencd in the event of any wrong choice.😊

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    1. It’s definitely time for her to face challenges on her own and I will be there if she needs me. I’m learning slowly but surely how to step back. This is tough!!!

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      1. I know the feeling of letting go slowly. You shall need a stronger heart. Do not fret. She will be fine and you shall be proud!

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  3. I think this is one of those only time will tell situations; trust her judgement since I’m sure you raised her well! Probably worth your daughter knowing her options/ college procedure in case she does indeed decide to change rooms but I suspect that will be unlikely!

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    1. Thank you! you are so right… I will let her know that she is by no means stuck with a roommate that may make her fell uncomfortable in anyway. I pray that she made a good choice and trust that she did. Just can’t believe that my baby is all grown up!

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