Happy March!!!
I’m using this month to get ahead of my game and practice what I preach.
So the other day, my son comes into my room and tells me about a kid on his bus. Apparently, this fella thinks black people are worthless. We need to all go back to where we’re from. But hers’s the zinger his parents, as well as him, are from India.
They moved to the United States about 5 years ago!
My son has been here his entire life…
My son walked into my room with his chest poked out and short of breath. His shoulders were carrying a load that was too much for him. He slumped down on the floor and asked me if I was busy.
For him…never. I said, “what’s on your mind.”
He replied, “I really think I’m going to lose it on the bus if the kid behind me says one more thing about black people being lazy and thieves.”
Here’s the thing, my son is a lot like me except he’s 16, 6’3 and about 230 pounds of pure muscle. Other than that, he is me. We are very friendly and respectful and like getting along with everyone. However, the battle is on once we are pushed out of our comfort zone and feel extremely disrespected.
Which is why I am beyond proud that my son didn’t react to a small-minded person. If my son were to fight this other kid, he wouldn’t know when to stop fighting, and that one fight could ruin the rest of his life. He will definitely be suspended if not expelled because one punch would send this kid to meet his maker. Therefore putting my son in a legal battle.
No one is worth you’re freedom being compromised. Words and Stupidity can be ignored, but violence can not!
I was put in a position while I was in boot camp that led me to put a young lady in the hospital. In my younger years, my anger always won and left me suspended from school a few times and almost led to a dishonorable discharge from the military. But I’m so proud that I have outgrown that childish behavior and have adopted a “you don’t phase me attitude.”
I am determined to not only practice what I preach but get my kids to believe that words have little power, but actions hold it all. Allowing a small person to produce a significant response could cost you your life.
React by being the bigger person!
You could have chosen any blog to read, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!
~Belladonna~
First of all I’m so sorry your son had to go through this. That is so sad and horrible and no one has the right to make someone feel inferior due to their race. Also I agree with you- taking a peaceful approach is the best thing to do. I used to be very hot tempered as a teenager but have definitely learnt that not reacting is the best way to react to certain things.
Thank you! yes it’s so important to let the little things go andnfocus on the big things that bring us joy. I never want my kids to make the mistakes that I made.
Yeah I understand where you’re coming from. You always want your kids to make better decisions than you did at that age.
Yes!! we always want them to better than us.