If Only “Looks” Didn’t Matter

If you had to be honest with yourself and answer this question, what would your answer be?

Does looks matter to you when you’re searching for love?

If yes, how much (10%, 20,% 30%, etc.)?

I truly wish it didn’t matter, but I feel like the majority of us are programmed to base our attraction for someone off of their looks. I wish this wasn’t the case because some “not so” beautiful people on this earth could make for an ideal life partner.

But here’s the thing regardless of how beautiful you may think you are, there is someone out there judging you. Focusing on your exterior and not giving you a chance to show all of you.

The most beautiful people are so because of their souls!

When I take a look at the divorce rate in America, I can’t help but wonder if it could be lowered if we fell in love with someone’s inner light. For instance, we say I’m looking for a soulmate, but yet we aren’t taking the time to learn anyone.

You’re eyes become glued to whatever part of their body you’re lusting after. I’m certain you don’t have superpowers that will allow you to quickly examine that inner jewel.

After being married for almost 20 years, I must say that going for looks and looks alone is the worst thing you can do. Your spouse’s looks aren’t going to pay the bills and pull you out of a tight jam. But their ability to work hard will.

Your new love maybe everything that you dreamed of but are terrible with money, compulsive liar, cheater, gambler, drug addict, alcoholic, child molester, serial killer. The list can go on and on. But my point is you could have possibly passed up the person you were meant to be with because of looks.

Looks fade, wrinkles set in, droopy skin will appear, and God forbid you have a horrible medical scare that changes your appearance. Life happens, and as a result, beauty fades, but a beautiful soul will always be just that.

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As long as you handle it with care.

You could have chosen to read any blog, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

 

10 thoughts on “If Only “Looks” Didn’t Matter

  1. I think looks have to matter at least in initial attraction, but after that the person they are needs to be magnetic to the person you are and if they’re not don’t lie to yourself.
    But you’re right, outer looks seem to dominate these days.

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    1. I have a friend that continues to go after the wrong men. They have to be a certain height, build etc. She has passed up some pretty amazing guys because they didn’t look a certain way but have everything else she’s looking for in a man. I just want to shake her!!!

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    1. Yes!! If the energy is wrong then it won’t last. We have an ideal of what we want but in the end that person may not be what we need. 20% is good. That 80 will keep your bond strong.
      Thank you so much for stopping by 😍😍😍

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