Learning to handle a situation like a grown-up can be challenging. Invariably fighting to not have the last word is a struggle for many people, including me. If I feel like I’m being attacked with your thoughts of me, then I automatically feel the need to protect myself and explain.

The explanation usually consists of me telling you why you shouldn’t feel the way you feel about me. Truth be told, I’m guilty of wanting to be liked.

That doesn’t mean I will let someone run all over me and treat me poorly. But I will try to remain neutral and speak to everyone.

Then there is my husband…..

He has a more rugged approach to dealing with life and not feeling the need to explain himself to someone that means very little to him.

His famous words are quoted from Eminem the great,

“I am whatever you say I am, if I wasn’t, why would you say I am.”

So in the spirit of that, I want as many people that I can get to adopt this way of life.

We exhaust so much of our energy and our pure existence into how people characterize us. Time is lost, and we have nothing to show for it. And in the end, someone’s opinion of you will not make or break you.

We can only make or break ourselves.

Every day we come in contact with 1000’s of people and each one of them will think something different about you. They will judge you without knowing who you are. Before you even open your mouth, they have an opinion about you. They have already decided what category to put you in and have determined who they think you are.

And so what let them think and allow them to carry this false narrative of you. You don’t owe anyone an explanation about anything that pertains to you.

Repeat after me…

I am whatever you say I am, if I wasn’t, then why would you say I am.

You could have chosen to read any blog, but you chose mine, and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~