Tofu Stir Fry

Last night was my first time cooking Tofu. I never had the interest to eat it let alone cook it. However, my daughter refuses to eat anything other then fish so I here I am looking on Pinterest for more meal ideas. I was pleasantly surprised when I stumbled across this Tofu stir fry recipe.

It took me 15 minutes to prep and cook, so that is a huge win for me. You all know that I cook every day for a family of 5 so I feel like I live in the kitchen. Well, the kitchen and laundry room.

The one thing that I love about stir fry is you can use whatever items you have in the kitchen. There aren’t any wrong items you can cook with. Just choose your favorite items to saute and get to cooking.

Ingredients

  • 2 red peppers
  • 2 tsp of coconut oil
  • 1 green pepper
  • 1 onion
  • 2 heads of broccoli (florets)
  • 2 cups of mushrooms
  • 15.5 ounces Tofu
  • Brown rice or Cauliflower rice, or vegetable pasta
  • 4 tbs reduced the sodium soy sauce

Heat a Large pan and add oil and vegetables. Cook for 5 minutes then add mushroom cook for another 5 minutes and remove from pan. Slice Tofu in 4 squares and cook for 2 minutes all sides. Add vegetables back and add soy sauce. Serve over rice

You have chosen to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

Photoshopping and Fitness Shouldn’t mix! This Is Not A Game

I was going to write about something totally different today but this particular topic struck my heart. I am frequently on Instagram, I post a lot on my timeline as well as on my instastory. I always scroll through and look at all the latest diets, workouts, coupon deals and of course memes, because you know I have to get my laugh in for the day. But my laughter stops when I come across someone that is constantly contradicting themselves when it comes to diets and photoshopping their pics.

If you are in the fitness industry then you are held at a higher standard then those that aren’t. You have a responsibility and you know this. I am constantly contacted by women and men of all ages on social media. They ask me everything from workout plans to how often they should work out. They want to know what works for me. Now what if I took pictures and in those pictures, you saw me with a 6 pack. Not just any 6 pack but abs that looks as if I do crunches and pull-ups in my sleep. Then the day finally comes when we meet in person and now your confused. Like…. have I just been catfished? The answer is YES! Yes, you have been catfished.

Do you know how many people are holding on to your every lying word? I mean here are these eager people ready to do whatever just to lose weight and they are depending on you for help. But the wrong help can be deadly.

You can’t starve yourself one day and then eat fast food the next. Now maybe just maybe a pound or two will drop but what about internally. How do you feel internally? What is your cholesterol level looking like after treating your body like a human YOYO?

Let’s face it you have to work out, eat clean, rest and let stress go. Once you do all those things you will lose healthy weight and get in the best shape of your life.

I strongly recommend that everyone seeking weight loss help should first seek a nutritionist and then a trainer. When you meet with your trainer make sure you have a list of questions. The questions are for them not you. Treat your first session like an interview and see if they are knowledgeable on the subject of weight loss.

The truth is, you should be picky about who you hire because there are 1000’s and 1000’s of trainers, health coaches, and wellness coaches on instagram, facebook, and local gyms. So there are an endless amount of options. The right trainer/ coach is out there.

Be careful who you choose and make sure they look like their online photos.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

How to gain 5 pounds in 10 minutes Mac and Cheese

Maybe it’s just my metabolism but I think I could gain 5 pounds just by sniffing this mac and cheese. I’m used to making my mac and cheese with cauliflower (https://belladonnasflashlight.blog/2018/06/22/cauliflower-mac-and-cheese/ ) but this time I went all out and made sure I had all the ingredients that would make my greedy husband and son smile.

I didn’t hold back on the calories with this goody and sometimes you shouldn’t but just be mindful of your servings. Portion control is everything and a little exercise before consumption is highly recommended.

Oven on 375°

10 to 12 servings

Ingredients

  • 1 Box of pasta
  • 3 eggs
  • 3 cups of milk
  • 3 tbs butter
  • 2 cloves of garlic or 1tbs of garlic powder
  • 1 cup mild cheddar
  • 1 cup sharp cheddar
  • 1 cup mozzarella
  • 1 cup parmesan cheese

Cook your pasta as suggested on the back of the packaging. Drain and shake parmesan cheese and melted butter on top and set aside.

In a large bowl add your eggs, milk garlic powder pepper and salt. Stir until everything is mixed thoroughly. Set aside.

Sprinkle your cheese all on top of your pasta in a large nonstick pan. Then pour your milk mixture on top. Using a wooden spoon push down on the mixture to make sure your milk is evenly distributed on your dish. Place in oven for 35 to 40 minutes. Let cool for 5 to 10 minutes and serve warm.

 

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I am honored!

~Belladonna~

 

Ironic or Sincere: How Offensive Memes Harm Our Generation — Sammicakes

Early this week, an absolute (white) genius at my school posted the above meme to his Snapchat story, and— surprise, surprise—he got beat up by two African American kids the next day. Did he deserve it? Was the joke even funny enough to make a double-team, round-house kick to the face worth it? Honestly, […]

via Ironic or Sincere: How Offensive Memes Harm Our Generation — Sammicakes

More Than A Woman

 

What does it mean to be “more than a woman”? I’ll never forget the first time I watched “Saturday Night Fever” starring John Travolta, and the most fascinating song to me was playing. The lyrics go a little like this…

Girl, I know you very well
I’ve seen you growing everyday
I never really looked before
But now you take my breath away

Suddenly you’re in my life
Part of everything I do
You got me working day and night
Just trying to keep a hold on you

Here in my arms, I found my paradise
My only chance for happiness
And if I lose you now, I think I would die
Say you’ll always be my baby we can make it shine
We can take forever just a minute at a time

More than a woman
More than a woman to me
More than a woman
More than a woman to me
-Bee Gees-

I want to be more than a woman to you. Because I’m so much more than that to me.

You could’ve have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

 

5 Tips That Will Prevent You From Becoming A Drunk While Raising Your Son

 

When my son was 2 I thought that I was going to pull my hair out. I have never in my life seen something move so fast and destroy the house in seconds. I learned quickly to only buy decorations from the Dollar Store because they won’t be around long. As soon as my human tornado saw a new decorative item it was as good as gone. But he was a little curly head cutie and I could not stop kissing him and squeezing his fat squishy body. But the squishy body started to grow and grow and grow and lean out.

My curly head cute tornado turned into a stunning teenage boy. But dear God give me strength because he is still a tornado. Just in a different way. Put it this way when it is time for spring break, summer break, Christmas break or any other break I sigh with RELIEF! I am exhausted from holding my foot up this boy’s behind. One year I was so upset with his grades and I said to him, “Boy I think you are purposely trying to kill me”. That might sound dramatic but I am so freaking serious. That is how I felt.

He is brilliant but lazy. When he studies he gets 96% or 92% on EVERYTHING and then he gets comfortable and it’s downhill from there and I want to scream!!

However, over the years these 5 basic tips have relieved my stress and prevented me from becoming a crack head or alcoholic.

  1. Stay firm no matter how cute you think they are. At the end of the day, cuteness doesn’t matter. I’m looking skin deep. My end goal for my son is to become a productive and well educated GOOD man. I refuse to have a grown man still depending on me financially. As long as my son lives under my roof I will sacrifice and make sure he has everything he needs to succeed. But then he is expected to use all the tools we gave him.
  2. Make him stay connected with the Lord. The bible will just instill good values and make them want to be a good person and be mindful of the feelings of others
  3. KEEP them in sports or any extracurricular activity that will take a good deal of their time. You have to keep them busy and teach them time management. Sitting around playing video games and looking like a damn zombie at the screen will not teach them a thing.
  4. Don’t let them date until they are able to control their mood swings. If you let their all over the place mood meet up with another teenager that has major uncontrollable moods then you are in for a world of danger. You have these two annoying kids feeding off of each other and making their moods even more darkened. What’s worse than 1 crazy? Yeah, you guessed 2 crazies!
  5. Don’t give up not even on their darkest days. Let them know that they are loved but you expect greatness and respect. Make sure they know that you will not let that death grip go.

When I tell you that I will die for my son, I mean that with my whole heart. If I have to go without so that he can have then that’s what I will do. When I had children I knew that I was going to raise them the best I could and pray that they become better than me. So when you see them slide it breaks your heart. But if I have to grab him up by the collar and stare at him while he is in class in order to make sure he is doing the right thing. Then guess what? That’s what I will do.  I refuse to have him slide to the point of no return.

I’ll keep you all posted on his progress.

You could have chose to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

5 Tips That Will Prevent You From Becoming A Drunk While Raising Your Son

 

When my son was 2 I thought that I was going to pull my hair out. I have never in my life seen something move so fast and destroy the house in seconds. I learned quickly to only buy decorations from the Dollar Store because they won’t be around long. As soon as my human tornado saw a new decorative item it was as good as gone. But he was a little curly head cutie and I could not stop kissing him and squeezing his fat squishy body. But the squishy body started to grow and grow and grow and lean out.

My curly head cute tornado turned into a stunning teenage boy. But dear God give me strength because he is still a tornado. Just in a different way. Put it this way when it is time for spring break, summer break, Christmas break or any other break I sigh with RELIEF! I am exhausted from holding my foot up this boy’s behind. One year I was so upset with his grades and I said to him, “Boy I think you are purposely trying to kill me”. That might sound dramatic but I am so freaking serious. That is how I felt.

He is brilliant but lazy. When he studies he gets 96% or 92% on EVERYTHING and then he gets comfortable and it’s downhill from there and I want to scream!!

However, over the years these 5 basic tips have relieved my stress and prevented me from becoming a crack head or alcoholic.

  1. Stay firm no matter how cute you think they are. At the end of the day, cuteness doesn’t matter. I’m looking skin deep. My end goal for my son is to become a productive and well educated GOOD man. I refuse to have a grown man still depending on me financially. As long as my son lives under my roof I will sacrifice and make sure he has everything he needs to succeed. But then he is expected to use all the tools we gave him.
  2. Make him stay connected with the Lord. The bible will just instill good values and make them want to be a good person and be mindful of the feelings of others
  3. KEEP them in sports or any extracurricular activity that will take a good deal of their time. You have to keep them busy and teach them time management. Sitting around playing video games and looking like a damn zombie at the screen will not teach them a thing.
  4. Don’t let them date until they are able to control their mood swings. If you let their all over the place mood meet up with another teenager that has major uncontrollable moods then you are in for a world of danger. You have these two annoying kids feeding off of each other and making their moods even more darkened. What’s worse than 1 crazy? Yeah, you guessed 2 crazies!
  5. Don’t give up not even on their darkest days. Let them know that they are loved but you expect greatness and respect. Make sure they know that you will not let that death grip go.

When I tell you that I will die for my son, I mean that with my whole heart. If I have to go without so that he can have then that’s what I will do. When I had children I knew that I was going to raise them the best I could and pray that they become better than me. So when you see them slide it breaks your heart. But if I have to grab him up by the collar and stare at him while he is in class in order to make sure he is doing the right thing. Then guess what? That’s what I will do.  I refuse to have him slide to the point of no return.

I’ll keep you all posted on his progress.

You could have chosen to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

Enchiladas The Keto Way

Sometimes I lie in bed thinking about food and what I should make for dinner the next day. Did I mention that I’m full when I do this? As you all know I love Pinterest and that is my go-to spot to find awesome meals.

Well, just the other day I stumbled across a real beauty. I look for low carb meals to prepare for dinner. So, I mostly rely on Keto recipes. But I have to either reduce or eliminate the cheese on the desired meal.

I always add more carbs to my meals for my family. So after I remove my portion I will then continue to prepare their dish. For instance, I added black beans to the enchiladas and then wrapped the mixture into soft shells. For my Pescatarian I added meatless sausage and all of the same ingredients below.

Once you get used to preparing 3 separate meals for everyone you will move quickly through the kitchen.  A sense of pride will come when you discover a multitude of ways to prepare the same meal that will please everyone.

Okay 4 ways to eat this

  1. Over a bed of lettuce
  2. Over Cauliflower Rice
  3. Soft shell or hard shell taco
  4. Meatless Sausage

INGREDIENTS

  • 1 Pound skinless chicken thighs
  • 1 Onion
  • 3/4 cup Enchilada Sauce
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 3 Avocados
  • Cheddar Cheese
  • 1 4 ounceGreen Chile peppers
  • 2 Tbs Coconut Oil
  • Iceberg lettuce or your choice of lettuce

Non Keto Add in

  • Black beans
  • Soft tortilla shell

Pescatarian Add in

  • Meatless Sausage separate pan

And all the same ingredients listed above

In a large heated pan add coconut oil and sear both sides of chicken breast. Remove from pan and add onion enchilada sauce water and green chili peppers add shredded chicken thighs back to the pan or keep them whole.

If using meatless sausage cook it the same way and at the same ingredients.

Next the choice is yours. Choose one of the four options or all of them. 😁

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored!

~Belladonna~

 

How To Fail On Your Diet

Do you want to know how to fail on your diet? I have lots of experience at this and I’m not ashamed to admit it either. Failing was a part of my journey and that’s why I became interested in the health and fitness industry. Trust and believe that I am a pro at failing and I learned from all my mistakes. So hopefully I can help a few people with this post.

The number one complaint I get from clients is, I can’t lose weight from any diet that I try.

What do you think I’m going to say?

STOP GOING ON DIETS!!!!! You have to make a lifestyle change and do something that is sustainable for the rest of your life. Diets are okay If you have to lose a massive amount of weight because your doctor is concerned about your test results. But they will place you on a specific diet that will help you get into a safe place. Then you have to take over from there and learn how to make better choices in all areas of your life.

Firstly please know that sleep deprivation will cause you to keep on unhealthy weight as well as cause chronic conditions, ages you, cause depression and that’s just to name a few. Choosing a good bedtime is just as important as choosing a healthy meal or drinking water instead of soda.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying the Keto diet if you are trying to jump-start your weight loss. But I do have concerns and would advise all my clients to see a certified nutritionist if they wanted all their meals to be Keto based for longer than a week. You want to make sure that you are getting the appropriate amount of nutrients and a nutritionist will see that you are.

I personally have to choose Keto or low carb meals for my dinner. Me and carbs have an evil relationship. I can NOT eat carbs after 3:00 pm. I found that out after years of battling with weight. Now don’t get me wrong I do eat carbs, but just not for dinner.

I wish everyone well on their weight loss journey. I smell success ahead!

You could have chosen to read any blog but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~

Southern Tasting Apple Cobbler In A Crock Pot

I have tried several ways to make my apple cobbler and apple crisp but this is by far the best way. I promise you will love it and refuse to make any other way. This recipe is short, easy and to the point. I bet you have everything you need right in your cupboards.

You literally need 15 minutes and then 2 hours to let it cook in your crockpot. I always make this when I’m invited to a party or trying to lift the mood of one of my kids or husband. I want them to feel that I deeply care about their problem but the truth is I don’t have time to REALLY care unless it’s a serious issue. Fortunately, haven’t experienced that just your average teenage meltdown.

INGRIDIENTS

  • 5 Large Red apples
  • 1 Box of yellow cake mix
  • 1-1/2 Sticks of butter
  • 2 Cups of sparkling cider
  • 3/4 Cups of brown sugar
  • 2 tsp Vanilla
  • 2 tbs Cinnamon

Place crockpot on high to begin warming for your delicious dessert.

Slice apples very thin and place in a large bowl. Add cider, brown sugar, vanilla, and cinnamon. Stir until and place mixture in heated crock pot.

Add yellow cake mix on top of crockpot mixture, melt butter and pour top. Cook for 2 hours. Unplug crockpot and let cool for 15 minutes before serving. Serve with two scoops of vanilla bean ice cream.

Please enjoy the video below💗

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Belladonna~